When you fall in love, it is the best feeling in the world. Your head spins, you are happy all the time, and can’t wait to be with that other person. Your heart pounds when you think about them. You have butterflies in your stomach when you think about them and can’t stop thinking about your future with them.
Then comes the work.
When someone opens their heart and permit another person to be a part of their lives, it comes with responsibility. In order to ‘stay in love’ requires a little bit of work. But it’s worth it.
I remember this elderly woman I worked with that would pull out her little pocket mirror and redo her make-up and put on fresh lipstick as we got off work. It was a nightly ritual (we worked the evening shift). I thought it was a bit odd, so one day I asked her, “you got big plans for tonight” as she was putting on her lipstick? She said with a cute smile in her eyes, “just because I got him, doesn’t mean I will get to keep him.”
I just thought that was so sweet. The coworker was making herself all pretty for her husband of many years. So when she saw him that night, the sparks could fly again.
As our lives get busier that’s when we have to be conscious of keeping the romance and love alive. Love is a powerful thing, but it is also a fragile thing. Without trust and passion, love can fade away never to be recaptured. Making sure there are trust and excitement requires work.
So schedule those romantic dinners and weekend getaways. Even skip work or parental duties once in a while to have a midday romance.
Falling in love is lots of fun, but then comes the work to maintain that romantic, loving relationship. But the more you practice it, the easier it is as it becomes a habit.