What in the world is micro-cheating? And yes, it’s another thing to worry about in relationships.
If you are asking yourself the question, “am I cheating?” Then you are probably doing something that is considered emotional cheating.
“Micro-cheating is a series of seemingly small actions that indicate a person is emotionally or physically focused on someone outside their relationship,” according to relationship expert Melanie Schilling.
If you text somebody without your partner’s knowledge or save a name of someone under a fictitious name that might be considered micro-cheating.
Schilling says that if you:
- Connect with someone on social media
- Share too many inside jokes
- Downplay the status of your relationship with your significant other
- Conduct secret flirtation
…you may be micro-cheating.
“Secrecy is the tell-tale sign,” Schilling said. “Micro-cheating is a subtle betrayal and it needs secrecy to fuel its fire.”
Flirting is fine, but if your partner is micro-cheating and continues to it will undermine the relationship in the long run.
“Allowing micro-cheating to continue can set up a relationship pattern that undermines you and enables your partner to have their cake and eat it too,” Schilling said.